Why do you need to learn more about dating and courting? Is this not something people just pick up from others and “learn as they go”? Is there a right and wrong way of dating or, like learning to walk or ride a bike, can people just naturally figure it out as they experience it?

The cold, hard facts are that today’s standards of dating, courting and engagement are wrong—all wrong!

But how can I say this? All you need do is look at the astonishing array of ill effects in millions of relationships to realize that the dating and courtship practiced today are far off-track. But, before we address this, the principle of cause and effect must be explained.

The Cause-and-Effect Principle

Most people live their entire existence completely unaware of why things either “go right” or “go wrong.” They seem unable to grasp that what they do, or do not do, has a direct effect on their lives. Most do not recognize that for every cause there is an effect—or, conversely, for every effect there is a cause. Nor do they know that this is a law. Scientists recognize this in physics, but society is unaware that the same is true in life—that the law of cause and effect is no less immutable than any law of science.

Let’s reason together, considering a few basic points. How does the law of cause and effect work in one’s life? Some simple examples:

If you routinely eat too much, what happens? You will become sick or overweight—or both! There is no mystery to this.

If you drink too much alcohol, you will become intoxicated. This could lead to a long list of bad effects: A next-day headache, being arrested, or even an auto accident resulting in injury or death to yourself or others. Again, there is no mystery here.

If you break society’s laws, the effect is that you might go to jail or prison. This will hurt your family, your career opportunities and your entire future. Once again, no mystery to this.

In this fashion, the law of cause and effect directly impacts your life—and the life of everyone on earth. The ways that this happens are endless.

Let’s go further. If industry pollutes the environment, the result is contaminated air or water, or even the much-debated problem of global warming. If countries go to war, the results—the effects—are economic upheaval, disease, famine and general misery for all involved. If parents neglect the proper rearing of their children, or if children do not obey their parents, the effects could be poor performance in school, drug addiction, criminal conduct or worse.

Of course, none of this is hard to understand.

God’s way of life—including the principles of right dating, courtship and engagement—is also based on the law of cause and effect. The Bible contains hundreds of laws and principles, each carrying the power of cause and effect for those who keep—or break—them!

Whether one identifies and knows all the laws and principles of the Bible is not relevant to whether breaking them will bring certain punishment. Just as speeding can result in a ticket, whether the driver knew the speed limit or not, so those who break the laws of God reap penalties, whether they know they are violating specific laws or not.

Look at the world around you. It is littered with broken families, unhappy marriages, single-parent homes, STDs, astonishing ignorance and widespread misery. Have you ever asked why? WHY has mankind never been able to solve these and other great problems? Why do they only grow worse with the passing of time? The answer: because the laws and principles of God are being routinely broken by earth’s billions of human inhabitants.

The Author of the Bible states that His great Law, the Ten Commandments, is “holy, just, good” and “spiritual” (Rom. 7:12, 14). Again, consider the basic understanding of cause and effect. When God’s laws and principles are obeyed, they bring countless blessings, benefits and good things into the lives of those who obey them. But mankind has routinely rejected—and even lampooned—the instruction book that reveals the cause of all its problems, evils and ills.

The Effects

So how does the law of cause and effect apply to dating and courtship? Where do these practices lead? The answer is simple. Dating, and the courtship that may ensue, are the precursors to relationships—and ultimately marriages. The effect—successful or failed marriages—is what results from either right or wrong forms of dating and courtship.

The cause-and-effect principle goes both ways. For every cause, there is a resulting effect, and for every effect, there is a traceable cause! So, let’s look at the effects of modern dating. We could ask: Are they good?

To determine whether the dating practiced today is correct, we should first examine its fruits. In other words, we must analyze the effects of dating today. If the effects are bad or rotten, then we should be able to admit that something is wrong, possibly very wrong, with the cause—the ways that people in society practice dating, courtship and even engagement.

Therefore, it is essential to examine the overall state of the marriage institution. If dating and courtship are being done properly, we should expect the general condition of marriage throughout society today to be healthy.

 
Tonight will be the night that I will fall for you
      
Over again
                      
Don’t make me change my mind
       
I won’t live to see another day
 
I swear it’s true
        
Because a girl like you is impossible to find
              
You’re impossible to find

With every appearance by you, blinding my eyes, 
                        
I can hardly remember the last time I felt like I do. 
                
You’re an angel disguised.
  
Bridge1
         
And you’re lying real still, 
        
but your heart beat is fast just like mine. 
        
And the movie’s long over, 
        
that’s three that have passed, one more’s fine.

Chorus:
          
Will you stay awake for me? 
  
I don’t wanna miss anything 
                   
I don’t wanna miss anything 
        
I will share the air I breathe,
     
I’ll give you my heart on a string,
                           
I just don’t wanna miss anything.

Vers2
I’m trying real hard not to shake. I’m biting my tongue,
but I’m feeling alive and with every breathe that I take,
I feel like I’ve won. You’re my key to survival.

Bridge2
And if it’s a hero you want,
I can save you. Just stay here.
Your whispers are priceless.
Your breathe, it is dear. So please stay near.

Will you stay awake for me?
I don’t wanna miss anything
I don’t wanna miss anything
I will share the air I breathe,
I’ll give you my heart on a string,
I just don’t wanna miss anything.

Say my name. I just want to hear you.

Say my name. So I know it’s true.
¨        
You’re changing me. You’re changing me. 
                    
You showed me how to live. 
                            
So just say. 
        
So just say

Chorus:
That you’ll stay awake for me.
I don’t wanna miss anything.
I don’t wanna miss anything.
I will share the air I breathe,
I’ll give you my heart on a string,
I just don’t wanna miss anything

Friendship

 

Letter to You

Let me tell you these things my friend, during those TIMES, I was so depressed, as a PRODUCT OF loneliness, sadness and agony, and made my heart DIVIDED BY the confusions of my mind resulting to a worse RATIO in making decisions.

But then you came, since then, you made a TOTAL DIFFERENCE OF what i believe in, PLUS you did TAKE AWAY THE SUM OF my depression and those feelings where somehow DECREASED BY your presence and INCREASED BY your encouragement like a QUOTIENT OF inspiration and depression.

Thank you my friend, you are MORE THAN anything to me, now my dreams and goals are MULTIPLIED BY your continuing support, my negative belief were SUBTRACTED and REDUCED TO a better concept. My friend I ADDED you to my life, not LESS THAN nor MINUS but valuable than any expensive treasure you can find in this world.

Concept By: AMEN

Letters By: CHEYENNE

I am  cheerful, outgoing, and downright bouncy. People find me to be very personable and real.
I am confident in my own skin, and I don’t feel like I have to fake anything.

I am very independent and unique. I wouldn’t like to look like every other person on the street.
People find that me honest, and it’s easy to trust. Others expect me to be honest in all facets of my life.

I am Powerful and Determined

I am confident, self assured, and capable. I am not easily intimidated.
I can master any and all skills easily. I don’t have to work hard for what I want.
I make my life out to be exactly how I want it. And I’ll knock down anyone who gets in my way!

I am usually the best at everything … I strive for perfection.
I am confident, authoritative, and aggressive.
I have the classic “Type A” personality.

I am very open. I communicate well, and I can connect with other people easily.
I am naturally creative person. Ideas just flow from my mind.
A true chameleon, I am many things at different points in my life. I am very adaptable.

I tend to be pretty tightly wound. It’s easy to get me excited… which can be a good or bad thing.
I have a lot of enthusiasm, but it fades rather quickly. I don’t stick with any one thing for very long.
I have the drive to accomplish a lot in a short amount of time.My  biggest problem is making sure I finish the projects I started.

I am a total package – suave, sexy, smart, and strong.
I have the whole world under my spell, and I can influence almost everyone I know.
I  don’t always resist your urges to crush the weak. Just remember, they don’t have as much going for them as I do.

I am a seeker. You often find yourself restless – and I have a lot of questions about life.
I  tend to travel often, to fairly random locations. I’m most comfortable when I’m far away from home.
I am quite passionate and easily tempted. My impulses sometimes get me into trouble.

I am friendly, charming, and warm. I  get along with almost everyone.
I  work hard not to rock the boat. My easy going attitude brings people together.
At times, I can be a little flaky and irresponsible. But for the important things, I pull it together.

I am truly an original person. I do have amazing ideas, and the power to carry them out.
Success comes rather easily for me.. especially in business and academia.
Some people find me to be selfish and a bit overbearing. i’m a strong person.

I have a free spirit, and I resent anyone who tries to fence me in.
I am unpredictable, adventurous, and always a little surprising.
I may miss out by not settling down, but I’m too busy having fun to care.

I am very intuitive and wise.I understand the world better than most people.
I also have a very active imagination. I often get carried away with my thoughts.
I am prone to a little paranoia and jealousy. I sometimes go overboard in interpreting signals.

aRtiSt

You may think you are not an artist at all, but here’s the good news–we are all artists. I’m not just talking about painting, drawing and sculpting artists, either.

• If you write you are a word-artist
• If you make music you are a music-artist
• If you make wonderful dishes you are a food-artist
• If you make messes you are a clutter-artist

You Are Creative

If you think you are not creative can consider that you are simply not using or recognizing your creativity. Perhaps you are afraid of doing something new or different?

The main reason for my being an artist…is because it helps with inner struggles. If others that find that true as well, they will find that it takes away all kinds of hell.

LifEstYlE

 

A Lifestyle

Being an artist is a lifestyle, not a temporary situation.

At different moments you see with different eyes.

You see differently in the morning than you do in the evening.

In addition, how you see is also dependent on your emotional state.

Because of this, a motif can be seen in many different ways,

and this is what makes art interesting.

Art is a lifestyle not just an activity.  One’s art and one’s life are eventually inseparable.  One cannot be an artist without living a lifestyle which is conducive to being an artist.

There is a widespread belief that a “real” artist must make a living from his art.

In my view being an artist does not imply making an income from your art.  Making an income from any activity, art or other, is being an entrepreneur, a business person, etc.  It is not being an artist.  In my view, as I said earlier:

Being an artist is about being free to express your personality through art.

 

Capricorn individual is stable, hard-working, practical, methodical, and ambitious, never losing sight of his goals regardless of how many obstacles are in the way.  

 Capricorn on the outside is a cool, calm, reserved individual with powerful inner strength who possesses  the innate ability to rise to the top through unflinching conviction and sheer perseverance.  This is a rather stoic person who more than anything else enjoys power, respect, and authority, and who is willing to toe the line for as long as it takes to achieve his goals.  Inwardly, however, Capricorn may not be the self-confident pillar of strength that he appears to be, and when his power or authority is compromised, he may make flawed decisions that could cause everything he has worked for to go down in flames in a spectacular way. Even so, the Capricorn personality is one that is firmly grounded in reality and who will consistently be the voice of reason in a chaotic world.   He understands why the rules are in place and conforms accordingly.  Though he may seem unfriendly, arrogant, or without humor to outsiders, Capricorn is inwardly quite warm and sympathetic, often with a surprisingly quick wit.   Capricorn’s general outlook is fairly rigid, and once he forms a view of the world, he will often stubbornly hold on to that view despite compelling evidence to the contrary.  He may also be subject to a degree of pessimism, often seeing the glass as half empty rather than half full.  Socially, Capricorn is inhibited and uncomfortable in new situations, approaching others at first with caution and suspicion.  As far as money is concerned, Capricorn approaches finances as he does everything else – with prudence, planning, and discipline.  As such, there are not many Capricorns on the bottom of the barrel in society. 

Capricorn in the workplace is the one with the well-appointed office full of earthy materials, with warm wooden desk and bookcases and probably some greenery too.  Capricorns are a dream come true for the boss, as they arrive to work punctually and will stay late whenever necessary.  Capricorn  will willingly carry a heavy load of work, and will steadily and methodically tackle every task without complaint.  Capricorn takes his work seriously and has the highest work ethic in the zodiac.  He does not waste any time at work hanging around the water cooler socializing, and may therefore be considered cool and unapproachable by co-workers.  Though he may not be the most popular person in the office, everyone knows they can count on him to hold up his end, however.  If you have a Capricorn boss, he is likely a stern taskmaster who expects you to dress appropriately and hold down your share of work.   However, if he feels you are a valuable part of his team, he will take very good care of you and show loyalty and compassion not seen often in bosses from other zodiac signs.

If you have found a romantic partner in a Capricorn, you have an individual that approaches love just like he approaches anything else – with caution and reserve.  Remember, though, that this goat has a fish tail, and the fish is the symbol of emotions and feelings. Though Capricorn is known for being traditional, stoic, and even stodgy, underneath is a loyal, sensitive, and yes – even witty partner waiting to come to the surface.  A Capricorn partner will expect you to dress and behave in a civilized manner, and the more of an attribute you are to furthering his career, the better.  Capricorn will not be the most spontaneous lover on earth, but once committed, he will provide you with stability, loyalty, and security for life.  Clingy or needy partners won’t suit Capricorn, because it is likely that he will hold his career above or on level with his marriage, so a strong, self-confident mate is a must for this sign!

The best matches for Capricorn for sure are not surprisingly, Taurus and Virgo, the other two earth signs.  Scorpio, Sagittarius, Aquarius, and Pisces might also work for some individuals.  It will likely be tough going for Aries, Gemini, and Libra. 

Capricorn in any relationship is a down-to-earth traditionalist who follows the rules.   Once you have been admitted to his inner circle, he will prove a reliable, trustworthy friend who will suffer your shortcomings in silence rather than make a fuss.  Capricorn will not be the one to head to the beach on a whim or go out for a night of reckless partying, but he will gladly grill some steaks and provide the red wine for a civilized evening with a few close friends.  He is a good friend to bounce ideas off of, as he is by nature cautious and reasonable, always weighing the pros and cons of any given situation.  He will probably not be a comedian every day, but he will likely surprise you with very funny comments that seem to come out of the nowhere at the most appropriate moments.  All in all, your Capricorn friend will be there for you when you need him, and at work when you don’t!